SESSION 2 - NEXTGEN CONFERENCE

We trust tonight’s message encouraged and guided you in your journey of raising up the next generation. These notes are meant to help you remember and reflect on the message, help you go deeper into study on the subject, or be used for a sermon group discussion.

NEXTGEN CONFERENCE: SESSION 2

Blueprint of an Emotionally Healthy Home

Notes:

It starts with God (Foundation)

• His blueprint for families.
  His plan works!

• His Word gives direction

• His grace heals and restores
  No matter where you are.

Individual Wholeness (First Floor)

• Spiritual Growth

• Self-awareness

• Philosophy of Emotion

• Resilience

• Working conscience

• Self-validation/Self-soothing
  Self-regulation

• Emotionally and mentally healthy
  Seek help if needed

Marriage and Family Health (Second Floor)

• Working together

• Healthy communication

• Stable interactions

• Healthy attachment

• Resilience in adversity or conflict

• Humble repair

• Emotional Connection
  Building emotional equity
  ARE you there for me?

• Forgiveness and Grace

• Personal security
  Teflon Soul

• Empathy

• Compassion and Kindness

• Unconditional Love

• Co-regulation

• Relational modeling

Emotional Health for Children (Third-Floor)

• Unconditional Love

• Emotional Connection

• Affirmation

• Emotional
  Availability
  Responsiveness
  Engagement

• Attunement

  • Attunement – the ability of a parent or caregiver to adequately and consistently respond to a child’s nonverbal cues for attention and regulation. A child’s nonverbal responses and distress cues are met appropriately.

  • Has to be consistent, positive, and constant

• Emotional Safety & Validation

• Active Listening to Understand

• Co-regulation

• Sound and secure discipline and training

• Build healthy individuation

• Healthy identity development

• Distilling Emotion

Tech Boundaries In Our Home

• Parents were not ready for the boom of tech, especially the smartphone. We were not ready, nor fully understood the abilities and dangers of constant access to the internet. We are the gatekeepers of our home. We’re in charge of what we let in. It is our responsibility to protect our kids and to teach them the proper use of tech and social media.  

• The devices are not theirs, they are ours (We also pay for the internet). This means we can have the devices at any time to look through and make sure things are appropriate. 

• We have to know the passwords or they simply are not allowed to have passwords on their devices. 

• We teach our children to be mindful of how long they are on their devices (including TV). 

• No phones will be allowed in the bedroom at night, there’s no reason for that. Buy an alarm clock. When friends come over the same rule applies. When sleeping over at a friend’s home we communicate this and ask the parents to please adopt this boundary when our kids sleep over. 

• What we do as parents with our own tech is important. Our kids will learn our behavior and patterns with tech through observation. If our own tech use doesn’t have appropriate boundaries then we won’t have the mind or vision to see when our kids are overstepping boundaries.

• Parents have to decide together when a kid should have their own phone and there must be monitoring programs established right away.

Discussion:

• What impacted you most about this session?

• What did you learn you are doing right in the context of this blueprint in your own home?

• What do you feel you can improve upon in your own home or situation?

• What are some tech boundaries that you have set in place to protect your children?

Pray Together

We hoped you found this NEXTGEN CONFERENCE discussion helpful in shaping and raising the next generation for Christ. We pray you can find ways to apply it this week!